My condolences to the Family of Ann Patella. What has help me and my family to deal with these feeling is God's Word the Bible's promise he hold out to us so we can see our love one in the book Revelation 21:3, 4 very soon all our tears of sorrow will be turned into tears of joy, as this is Jehovah God's promise to all of us. "What Happens When You Die?" Find the Bible answer to this question at jw.org >Go to Bible Teachings-Bible Question Answered> Life and death